RESISTANCE CAN KILL (read time 1:37)
Just came home after 3 days in the hospital—big bad car crash. Broke 6 ribs and fractured my sternum, OUCH! They say the air bag saved my life. They also say that the fact that “I didn’t see it coming” may have contributed to fewer injuries because I was completely relaxed, therefore I put up NO RESISTANCE. The big lesson here for all of us artists & entrepreneurs is that resistance can take you out of the game or critically injure a creative project. And while it’s true that resistance can show up anytime during the creative process, it’s also true that it shows up the strongest the closer you get to the destination; the final edit of the film, the last verse of the song, the closing chapter of the book, the looming launch date of a new site, the last signature on the contract or in my case 1/2 mile from home. The fear of getting it wrong or making a stupid decision will inevitably invite resistance to the party and then everything changes—because resistance and fear are inseparable brothers. Like Marine Corps buddies, whenever fear is present resistance is always there to back up his bro. However, make no mistake, resistance and fear are the mortal enemy of the true artist & entrepreneur, and will do anything to derail the creative process and take the artist out of the game. And it gets worse: unlike the unaware victim of a car accident (me), artists & entrepreneurs DO “see it coming,” therefore it’s much more of a challenge to NOT tense up in anticipation of the crash.
|Posted By Marcia Sherwin|
| Your accident |
Michael dear..I just heard about your accident at the center tonight and went home and found your amazing blog about it. I am so very glad that you are doing so well and I want you to know that you have a lot of love and prayers being sent your way from everyone at the center who heard about it. Much love to you always! Marcia
|Posted By Sara|
| Glad Ur OK |
Yes... You lived through it and this is good... Resistance... True how it exacerbates whatever might ail us... You are good... Good Tidings. Sometimes Reader... always appreciater... Sara
|Posted By Spunky Munkey|
| Best of Recovery |
Glad to see you made it through, your thoughts remind me of when I was about 8 or 9 yrs old. It was a very howling dark, stormy, rainy, night.The family dog was howling up a racket way down a hill by the barn. My father asked me to go get the dog and put him in the basement. I was sleeping, never heard the dog, but I got up, went out into the night and on down the hill. It was a weird feeling, I had no fear, did not feel the rain, just kind of a determined peace, got the dog and put him in the basement and then I woke up literally, although I was aware of what I had just done. Perhaps your words equate to a bit like what I experienced, mind over the mission.
|Posted By Abigail McBride|
| resistance and recovery |
First, I am grateful that you are on the mend, and send blessings for a complete recovery which astonishes the doctors by how quickly it occurs... I appreciate your words, as always. I think sometimes people have resistance for reasons; if we can look to those reasons and understand the underlying forces at work (self-sabotage? fear of success? etc) we can often move through the deeper layers, and the symptom of resistance will evaporate all by itself. With the awareness of how precious each moment embodied truly is... A.
|Posted By Victoria|
| You are amazing |
So glad you survived. You are one strong human! I just recovered from one broken rib. Can't imagine having 6. Yikes. Good luck mending. I hope it is fast and as painless as possible. I look forward to reading more!
|Posted By Paula Maya|
| So glad! |
Hi Michael. I'm so glad we didn't loose you!! The biggest lesson from you here, to me, is that, in the midst of a very difficult personal situation, you chose to see the light side of things, and even share your insight with others - us. Thank you! And I wish you a speedy recovery.
|Posted By Rick|
| Feel better |
Hey Michael, Glad to see your fingers still work...oops! I'm not supposed to make you laugh. Anyway, get better soon. Regarding your post, fear manifests itself in procrastination of a project. Very few remember who got the silver medal years later. It is always one who finishes hard for the gold who gets the glory.
|Posted By Ken Tribolini|
| Thanks |
Love your comments! Hope you have a speedy recovery!
|Posted By Sylvie Lacroix|
| Resistance |
Very enlightening outlook on the artist and resistance. I am very happy to hear you are on the mend. Wishing you a speedy recovery. See you soon.
|Posted By Jaymes Q|
| So wise, so thankful |
I always read your blog posts, simply out of the need to hear words of wisdom and inspiration. There has not been a single post that I've read that I cannot immediately and directly relate to. Your words of encouragement are more than just that, they are more than inspiring, and the fact that you can pull such wisdom from this incident is all the more powerful. You happen to write and say exactly what I need to hear, and for that I thank you. Rest up, be good, hope the recovery goes well!
|Posted By Ken Budka|
| Great Perspective |
Another outstanding lesson Michael including the your positive perspective extracted from such a traumatic catalyst. Glad your still with us...
|Posted By Cherie|
| Thanks for sharing! |
Wow! So sorry to hear about your crash, but glad you weren't injured too badly. Thanks for sharing the learning experience. Your words of wisdom always come at just the right time. Just sent off my first set of proposals to book agents for the music travel book I'm working on. Now, have to actually start writing it! Scary! I'd be happy to send you the proposal and hear your comments if you're interested.
|Posted By Pablo|
| Get Well Soon |
Very Inspiring. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
|Posted By TShaka Mayanja|
| Get Well Soon |
Thank you for the advice about resistance/fear.....but for now, get well soon man.
|Posted By Jan|
| Resistance |
I like your description - resistance. I have always called the resistance "ohms," like in the old system of theatrical light boards. Sometimes rest can get rid of the ohms. Some days worse than others. So you say to confront them and that will Help diminish their power. Sometimes a friend's Inspiration can shoot them down. Jan
|Posted By Kristin|
| Wow is all I can say! |
Goodness gloriosky! You are a super dude my friend. Typing away your inspirations inspite of your ouchies! Homeopathic care package is on the way buddy. We love you so much and I will always be inspired by your courage and insights. I am so grateful that GOD decided to let us keep you around. Prayers continue.
|Posted By Mick Clarke|
| Accidents suck.... |
...but they rewire your brain. Mike, I totally relate to your 'relax' sentiment. I did exactly that in my motorcycle accident in 1998. I just asked God to spare me for my kid's sake. I had years of parenting ahead of me. Then I relaxed, knowing there was nothing else I could do but have faith. Next thing I knew, I was being attended to by many 'angels' paramedics...but I knew for sure who was the ONE that carried me through. I'm happy you relaxed!! Speedy recovery, and be well!
|Posted By MolokaiBill|
| Amazing Blog..and Man |
Three days after a wreck my blog would consist of three words: ow, oww, and owwie. Yours, however, gives 1:37 of articulate and deep founded thoughts to help others. You are most noble, you are helping others while in pain.
|Posted By Debra|
| ooops |
then I have to go and typo believe~* stop laughing- it might hurt.
|Posted By Debra Fontaine|
| hugs and love ~ |
I can not beleive you can write like a pro even in such pain. You are amazing. I hope you feel better soon Please know how loved you are by the Dolan/Fontaine family.
|Posted By Rachel|
| Wow |
I am so sorry to hear about your accident...truly. I am very glad you are basically on the mend. Amazing diligence to keep blogging at such a time for you...shows your own persistance in times of trial. I think human nature wishes to react to trauma with flight or fight...but if we know our Maker, He tells us to rest...like you said, no resistance..we as human beings need faith in someone as we know we are fragile, rest is hardly discouvered by most, anxiety, a common fear in us all needs to know how BIG a Master we serve. Take really good care of yourself Michael. All the best to you.:-) Rachel
|Posted By Eric G|
| Accident |
Sorry to here this bad news....be strong and take care.
|Posted By Mari|
| Great Post! |
Great post! One night in 1987, I fell asleep at the wheel after a late gig - car was a total wreck. I escaped with a bruise the size of dime on the left side of my knee. That experience gave me confirmation that I needed a change - I thought I was supposed to get out of the music industry - but lately, it appears I was just supposed to get out of late club gigs.
|Posted By Chris Towzey|
| Transformation |
Get well soon! You're changing poison into medicine - very Buddhist! Thanks for the continued inspiration in your blogs.
|Posted By Dean Moore|
| Your full recovery required... |
...'Cause I need a bunch more of these blogs! Former MC contributing writer/editor Dean Moore here. Your words of wisdom cater exactly to the artistic/entrepreneurial/philanthropic pursuits I'm trying to pull together right now, so, get better and keep 'em comin', sir! I need the mental reinforcement...
|Posted By Sam|
| You |
Just posted this on FBook. You are amazing. Check my FB for all the messages to you. Scroll down a few pages. . .past the Bon Jovi photos.
|Posted By Thom Bone|
| Get well soon! |
I wish you a speedy recovery! I hope you are not in too much pain. Also, while you are down and have some time, you might want to take a look at this... it is pretty amazing and I believe actually historic. It's called "The New Common Sense" and can be fojnd here: http://pastebin.com/gm27UV08D oh and don't worry... it is completely apolitcal, completely beyond politics. I just think you will find it to be more than interesting.
|Posted By Ron|
| Get well soon! |
I am glad and grateful you are alive and well to share this perspective on your circumstance. I'll be praying for your quick and thorough recovery.
|Posted By Robbin Michael Wagner|
| Le Résistance |
Sometimes Le Résistance is effective if organized. The airbag was much resisted in its early days by the soothsayers of doom and gloom in the auto industry. Therefore, as an artist, if you see resistance to your goals and idea, point out the effective life saving device of airbags. A product much resisted product that saves lives. Look at yourself through the eyes of resistance. Maybe just changing your appearance will usurp resistance invite acceptance. Get well Mr. Dolan. You are part of Le Résistance.
|Posted By Kaleo|
| Gratitude |
Thank you for that post. It couldn't have come at a more synchronistic and wonderfully beautiful moment. Appreciate it. :)
|Posted By Loni Specter|
| crash |
Nice to see your relatively OK! An air bag is better than a body bag. Question of the day. What's your next car going to be? Or perhaps it's time for a motorcycle. Chances are you've used up your bad luck for life!
|Posted By Marcia|
| Take care |
Prayers are with you, buddy. There are more efficient ways to come up with your great blog content, than this! ; )
|Posted By Debbie|
| bad crash, great blog |
Glad you are ok, feel better soon. Great blog - thank you!
|Posted By rick cobian|
| thanks |
Love you! Sorry your accident brought me such perfect words to get me through my project. I'm sending you healing thoughts....
|Posted By Rich|
| Resistance |
When I crashed my Goldwing motorcycle- I meditated on a variety of subject areas! This was a process that was not always completely voluntary meditation. It was unavoidably in my day dreams and my night dreams- the process included contemplating -- - People I care about - What is important to me? - What supports my purpose in life vs. unnecessarily risks my future? - Being aware of what it feels like to reach & excede my personal limitations. - Personal limitations are not static-I am not 30 I am not immortal! Particulary after age 50! - Did I ignore signals and get hooked doing the manly thing? - Working at maintaining the physical body to support the mental commitments. - forgiving myself for any possible judgement errors relative to driving exhausted. Just wanted to share my thoughts!!!
|Posted By Thomas|
| yr crash |
Impressive car crunch, Mr Dolan. And you sustained less injuries cause you didn't resist? Impressive lesson. It sounds like you did better than your car. It's good to have you back, blogging again, Take Care.