WHAT ARE U SO AFRAID OF? (Read time 0:57)
FEAR is the most crippling malady for all artists & entrepreneurs. It hastens doubt, prevents change, stalls growth, clouds choices, dams up the creative flow, stops innovation in its tracks, provokes worthwhile partnerships and joint ventures to crash & burn, and causes both talented artists and experienced CEO’s to “flinch” in the face of a timely decision. It also causes many genius artists to hide in their studios and powerful CEO’s to cower in their offices! As I continue to work with artists & entrepreneurs, here’s what I have found to be their biggest fears:
- What if I make the wrong choice? It could cost me everything!
We’ve been taught that in the face of fear we only have two options: Fight or Flight. Huh? Really? Only two options to combat the big bad fear beast? How about introducing another choice into the mix: “Fact-Check.” The one thing that usually sends fear running for the hills is truth & facts. Once we are privy to factual information in any situation, whether it’s a business proposition or a health challenge, thereafter it’s always a little easier to proceed with intelligent choices and wise decisions. Make sense?
You must know that as I write this I’m talking to myself. That’s why I have these words tattooed backwards on my forehead so that I see them in the mirror every morning: “React to the FACTS not the FEAR.”
What’s your method of dealing with fear?
Peefrct shot! Thanks for your post!
|Posted By TERRENCE|
| FACING FEAR |
IN ORDER TO KNOW COURAGE; WE MUST FIRST FACE FEAR!!!!
|Posted By Walt|
| Turn, face and question |
My fear speaks from behind me, like it wants to masquerade as 'my voice'. It isn't. Once, when it was really bad, and I couldn't ignore it - couldn't take it any more, I stopped what I am doing, closed my eyes and 'turned' to face it. "Who are you?", I asked. The fear voice got louder, meaner, more menacing, but I repeated the question again and again until it relented. I got no answer. 'Fear' had left the building. This happened about three years ago. It returns from time to time for a rematch, but I am always ready with my question.
|Posted By wichampi|
| fear |
"What Ifs" can be useful in a positive structure,for example;'What if I change the chord here for this one to better compliment the melody line.' The What If Fear Block in my life is replaced by "I can do this." We must give more credit to our reasoning brain to work things out and pour the emotions into our songs,paintings,dance etc.
|Posted By Daveed|
| Excellent |
Simple and powerful.
|Posted By Bjorn Sorlie|
| Fear |
Thank you for pointing your finger at the major challenge for my creative mind disigned to find a million alternative consequences to simple scenarios. It keeps repeating "not worthy", "what if?","don`t forget what happened to John Lennon", "melody needs refinement", "lyrics are not accurate", "nobody cares anyway".....the list goes on and on. My fear compares to that of letting my teenage child borrow my car during a raging blizzard. Fact tells me I harbor an overwhelming respect for the artform,the listner, the music business and my giftedness. Bless you for challenging my excuses Michael!! May I humbly request your input on; when is it good enough?
|Posted By Suza|
| Fear.... |
is your worst enemy!
|Posted By Jermaine|
| fear |
I'm 41 and still have yet to make it as my peers have went on to become superstars. Now I wonder if I ever will find success even tho people say they love my music. I dont perform because I'm embarrassed to. I've bee doing music for 25 years and still haven't found the success I've longed for. I've been screwed by record labels and manager. Scared to death I'm wasting my time, I continue to think in the back of my mind there is still a chance. I wish I would just die and not have to worry about it. If I die broke and unsuccessful it will be just as embarrassing as being alive and unsuccessful.
|Posted By Volita Pearl|
| Fearless |
I fear nothing anymore. Here's my lastest DIY video...DIY has never been so easy. Take back the power to make your own decisions that you always had. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQeAyr20tUc
|Posted By Robbin Michael Wagner|
| FEAR... |
Tomorrow is brand new day.
|Posted By Kingvegas|
| FEAR... |
My wife likes to use the acronym Fantasized Events Appearing Real. Fear is an internal condition meant to warn us about danger- external and internal. Bravery is overcoming fear- not necessarily eliminating it. We all need to be brave to progress realizing that we may feel scared, too We can't rely on other people or entities to supply us with what we want or need without effort on our part. Successful people share qualities regardless of the nature of their pursuits. One of those qualities is enthusiasm. Allow yourself to be excited, inspired, energized, motivated- however you describe your excitement to create and perform. Sharing your enthusiasm about what you do will take you to the next level.
|Posted By J S Kingfisher|
| Questioning the Facts |
I choose ďrespondĒ over ďreact.Ē React = reactionary; respond = response-able. Check the facts? When Iím in fear, which ďfactsĒ do I choose? Usually the gloomy ones. Facts according to whom? Simon Cowell? More CDs in the warehouse than in fansí hands; less money in the bank than bills outstanding; glowing reviews from total strangers; the sheer joy of making music: those are facts, the rest is opinion. What shall I try next? What is the state of the world I wish to reach? What new, clever combination of whatís uniquely mine and tools available to me might penetrate that world and bring me what I want? What is it I want again? I respond to fear with courage: grounded, methodical, quiet, steady courage.
|Posted By Elmer|
| songs |
I don't have fear in the regular way, but, what does one do when you're sitting on HIT SONGS without the money to demo them. If you demo them, you won't be able to pay rent or mortgage. No one wants to sleep under a bridge! Please give me insight.
|Posted By Beth|
| 2 Biggest Fears |
Based on my experience & observations, the two biggest fears for any artist or entrepreneur, are the "fear of failure" and the "fear of success." Both can be equally debilitating, and weirdly enough, you can actually be afflicted with both at the same time. Fact checking is good, but the best remedy is thorough preparation. Surrounding yourself with a confident and competent team that is supportive and encouraging is very helpful too. For stage fright, a malady that was nearly disabling for me, nothing beats preparation and familiarity with the environment; there are also some great natural anti-anxiety supplements (e.g., which contain chamomile, lemon balm, and/or melatonin) which can also help calm your fears
|Posted By Rachel|
| Abiding... |
Hi Michael:-) I'm not afraid, when you have nothing to loose, you have everything to gain...I work everyday in the arts..not wasting the time...Everything that is in my control, I am working with...Not always does time show us our destiny..Michelangelo, genuis fumbled around for quite some time..til his work was appreciated..it's not always the artist...Thank you Michael! Have a wonderful day..true! Rachel
|Posted By Loni Specter|
| Fear |
I have stage fright, so I rarely perform. When I have to address a group at one of my productions, I create an alter ego/charachter in my mind. Actually my biggest fear is the M>D> is reading my mind. www.ampshow.com
|Posted By Jai|
| Fear somewhat |
Truth is a big thing. When I'm sitting at home writing or in the studio recording ,I think it's OK but I need truthful validation from repartable ears before I move on. So I guess it's fear.
|Posted By Michelle Scott-Chiodo|
| What are you afraid of? |
Mr.Dolan,good to hear from you again. Your words are absolutely correct. Being in the music production and publishing business most of my life, the saddest stories in my memory are of talented songwriters, hiding their music from the public because they fear someone will steal the creation. I am talking about GOOD writers. My question is: who caused the fear in these people? Was it corruption in our industry or was it people who "know" everything and with big scarey mouths always spreading THEIR fear to those who can create something worth while. So here is my question? Should we write and hide our art in a dark closet and keep it safe or free it to find a life of its own? Read the copyright laws and find freedom.
|Posted By Claire|
| Fear |
Sometimes I find that if I don't take care of myself I can get more fearful and emotional in general. Getting more sleep, eating better-these help me stay more in balance and can then fact-check!!
|Posted By Austin|
| Just the Facts |
The FACT is no one bought my record. The FACT is it really wasn't the best work I could do. The FACT is I knew that before we printed up 5000 copies. The FACT is I know I can do better.
|Posted By Devon|
| Think too much |
I hide in my studio. Everyone thinks Iím writing but often Iím just daydreaming, or thinking. I donít think itís worry or fear, Iím just thinking about my future and what to do next. All of this thinking is adding up to be a big waste of time. Iíd like to break that habit.
|Posted By Grace P.|
| React vs. Respond |
Great wisdom here. My “human response” to fear is usually emotional. When I “react” to fear, I bypass the facts. In the past, the government has used fear to get us to support wars, or distract us from other issues. Actually any “power” can use fear to intimidate us. Doesn’t matter if it’s an intimating music attorney or a playground bully. And the biggest bully of all is the voice in my head! Instead of “reacting,” I’m going to start doing more “fact-checking.” Great reminder.