When UR Best Effort Fails (Read time 0:29)
It's a hard pill to swallow--especially after giving it long hours of hard work. Whether it's a new product, service, book, record, movie or speech. However, it may not be about you or your work. Could be the wrong timing, or collaboration, or your customers just didn't like your product or presentation. If it actually was your best effort, perhaps it's time to look at the part that didn't work and improve it--then keep moving forward. Nevertheless, what you're left with after your best effort fails is choice & opportunity. The choice to get sad, or mad, or blame it all on others (or not). And the opportunity: to find the gold in the midst of the dross—it's there, hiding somewhere between the letdown and the frustration.
|Posted By Jeannie|
| Your Post |
SO well said, Michael! Thank you!!! I also liked what you said, Randy! And others who posted here, too. Thanks to you guys, too, for sharing. :)
|Posted By Woody Woodham|
| Great post |
Finally some practical advice that takes into account that one may have been victimized. I would agree that as long as we have breath, opportunity will continue to exist.
|Posted By randy|
Thanks, Michael, for saying SO much in so few words... As completely TRITE as this sounds, you can't take rejection personally. I know, it is so easy to say, but... I've had several of my articles and stories published, but at the same time have had many of them "passed over". One publisher I am currently working with told me that is NOT my writing that is the issue -- but numerous other factors (finances, allotted space, etc.)which play a role in the entire process. Creativity -- whether it be a novel, song, performance -- also falls prey to subjectivity. Even to the point of what the reader/audience had to eat that day, or how little sleep they got! You must still believe in yourself, no matter what. That is key.
|Posted By Adrian|
| when all else fails |
Oh this happens more than I would care to count! Usually I just get a new microphone or something to help inspire me. Sometimes just a new pair of shoes and BAM! If I stopped doing this just because it didn't work out sometimes, I would have been long gone by now...sheesh! Besides, aren't we really doing art for ourselves and not for the approval of others ? I mean, it is nice and all, but even if my records didn't sell, I'd still make records.
|Posted By SJG|
| Failure or iterative process? |
When something that I do does not connect to the audience in the way I think it should, I look to see what worked and what didn't work. I no longer beat myself up or listen to people who will lump it into the easy category of "it just wasn't good enough." Parts of what I did worked such as people are buying it... hummm. Just not many people.... hummm... why? For every "why," I create a list of possible solutions to improve; one by one I test each solution out to see if the results improve. This can take months and is usually painstakingly slow, but it works.
|Posted By Bjorn|
| Failure and success |
A new thought or idea is indeed a brittle little thing; a lifted eyebrow, a smirk or a yawn can so easily send even the most experienced presenter way out into left field. Maybe itīs not all about having success in this life, but contribute to humanity on the long haul - a genius before his or her time is almost a proverb. Persistence and determination is omnipotent.
|Posted By Annie|
| **it happens |
I heard it said, "If you don't make mistakes, you're not trying hard enough." Onward & upward...
|Posted By Laura|
| Door Closes, Another Opens |
I am sure that everyone has probably heard the saying: "When a door closes, God opens another one." This has happened to me countless number of times. If I lost a particular job, I always got a better one. Maybe not in my time, but in God's time. I believe we can find some good in most things that happen to us that we consider negative. I always look for the good that can come out of a negative experience. I had a most negative experience with cancer in 2001. As a result, I retired from my career of 30 years and started my own business. I was in my late 50's then. I am 68 now and I am proud to say that my business is thriving. I love what I am doing as a professional pianist and have won many awards.
|Posted By Jade|
| Hmm |
This is a timely advice for me. I'm a business owner and product designer. Sometimes you Think you have the next best thing but your customers don't think so. It's important not to bash yourself up too much. Love your insight and advice to the universe.
|Posted By Kingvegas|
| Re-birth... |
I just posted to my FB account last night that I'm putting my original project of 17 years on hold to go a different direction. Despite the fact that my music is pretty good and what I do is pretty unique it hasn't sold. People by and large want to hear music that sounds familiar to them- though perhaps a newer version of a familiar sound. The bottom line is: if you've done all that you could think of and more and it still isn't reaping rewards equal-to or greater-than the efforts that you've put into it maybe it's time to move on. I have learned a lot about avenues to pursue on promotion, production, etc. that I will utilize for my next endeavor. My past experiences will give me a leg up for my future endeavors.
|Posted By Rachel|
| Value?? |
Thanks Michael! It's all a funny game..who's who,... One grain of sand does not amount to much, but if noticed..it can sparkle in the sun, and light your eyes... Have a great day:-) rachel
|Posted By Randhal W.|
| Morphing |
As I celebrate my successes I embrace my failures. They're both starting to morph into the same experience.
|Posted By ted|
| reassurance |
This happened to me about 5 years ago, and I survived. From then on, I was very careful that when I pitched a song, it was to the right agent, that the song was marketable, etc. I looked more carefully at all aspects of my songwriting. BUT I didn't quit and it has paid off. I learned alot from the experience and it moved me into a new, more mature place. Someone told me at that time that even the great ones "fail" at some time--there are so many variables to "success." Even Bob Dylan was booed when he played the electric guitar--did that make him less of a poet? less of a great musician? I took that advice and triumphed, and I encourage Angie and everyone to do the same.....
|Posted By Angie|
| my best effort failed |
I feel you are talking to ME! I just spent endless hours working on a show that was based on my specialty. I was prepared and confident. Yet, my audience, which I intentionally targeted, stared at me with glassy eyes---they didn't get it and I received a poor reaction. I am an overachiever and this crushed me. What went wrong? I have told myself this isn't personal and now, with your coaching, I am looking for the opportunity, for what I am supposed to learn from this. I can't blame anyone else. So I am scratching my head while I search for the lesson. I am looking at the songs, my performance, the audience, even my clothes. Was I performing above or below their understanding? STILL SEARCHING......